Genesis 2:18 NIV
The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
What is our role as a helper in the life of a man? I read a commentary that was shared from the Key Bible Verses series that said, “The term does not imply that the helper is either stronger or weaker than the one helped.” They further stated that, “a wife is not her husband’s clone but complements him.” As noted by Herbert Lockyer in his book about all women in the Bible, throughout history men have used the word helper as an inferior word to mistreat women in their pride and ignorance. Our enemy used what God has created to fulfill his excellency to shame and mistreat God’s daughters.
Knowing how Satan used the world to distort God’s plan for his female creation, Jesus throughout his ministry was very attentive to women’s needs and hurts (John chapter 4, John 8:3-11, Luke 10:38-42, Luke 8:43-48, John 2:1-12, Matthew 28, Luke 7:11-17 and many more). I am very blessed to have a husband who loves and fears God and takes to heart that treating me like Christ treats the church is essential to his relationship with God (Ephesians 5:25-30). I have learned to understand and embrace my role through the eyes of God instead of the world around me. God is our helper, which has been translated from the word “Eliezer” Hebrew-Greek (Key-Word Study Bible). God chose the most powerful attributes about Him to charge women into our role as wives and daughters. The misconception or implication of the word helper used by God in the scripture is often referred to as “Ezer” in the ancient world is not how the general population views it today. God created a helper that is suitable. When I hear suitable, I see purpose, completeness and believe God sees women as a necessary strength in the life of man. As women in the life of our husband as their “Ezer” Jesus said, “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So, they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate” (Matthew 19:4-6). I recently listened to a prominent preacher during a lesson summarizing Jesus’s statement in a simple term “marriage is a covenant not a contract.” I would take his statement a step further by acknowledging marriage is a covenant if you are under the authority of God. As Jesus said “Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Marriage under the authority of God takes work because Satan’s goal is to destroy/separate God’s plan of complete unity. It takes denying ourselves by putting the needs of our spouse before our own needs which is opposite of what the world teaches. Divorce is very common in our society according to census.gov. This is not surprising to me at all because most marriages happen for the wrong reasons. The world treats marriage like a new pair of shoes. When the shoes are new and comfortable and meet our needs, we love them but after they are worn out and they no longer meet our needs, we throw them out and get new pairs. As a suitable helper under God’s definition of marriage or in our general role as females, no matter what comes our way we show strength, dignity, we bind, heal, protect, and support during the good days and not so good days until death do us apart. We do not tear, ridicule, disrespect, discard, or abandon. Our strength comes from the fear of God (Proverbs 31:10-31). Are you embracing your feminine role according to how God sees you? A true man of God, in a male dominant world, embraces a female role as God envision in their lives, as a “Helper Suitable to meet him” or in simple term to complete him. A true man of God understands when a woman of God is in their lives or presence they can achieve completeness. 1 Peter 3:7 is an incredible passage reminding Christian men that if they want their prayers to be heard by God, they must treat their helper with respect. Oftentimes the “weaker partner” is focused on in that scripture which encourages the diminishing of Women’s role. Nonetheless, the scripture also highlighted that both man and woman are equal in the eyes of God. Do you know who you were created to be as a woman? Let us live to our potential in this amazing role. As God is our helper in every area of our lives, let us be the helper that God calls us to be in our female capacity. When we as daughters of God understand we have been given the most powerful attribute of God, we will no longer listen to the world that tells us we need to compete with God’s sons, or we are inferior. Just as we both (Male and Female) need God through Jesus Christ to complete us, so do the true men of God need Godly women of God to complete the open flesh they have in their lives. “So, the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with the flesh” (Genesis 2:21).
